Decidophobia

@MaybeMaiden Fred said your going to the movies with us tomorrow.

@BaldisBeautiful Yeah, it sounds like it will be fun.

@MaybeMaiden What are you doing before that?

@BaldisBeautiful I don’t know. What are you doing?

@MaybeMaiden Nothing planned. Want to go out?

@BaldisBeautiful Perhaps.

@MaybeMaiden Where would you like to go?

@BaldisBeautiful I don’t know where would you like to go?

@MaybeMaiden Want to meet at that Spanish Pub?

@BaldisBeautiful If that is where you want to go.

@MaybeMaiden Sure. Is 6 ok for you?

@BaldisBeautiful If you want to meet at 6, I will meet you at 6.

Pub in Zaragoza, Spain by Eye, The World Through My I (Flickr)

@WellMeantFred Out with May. Going ok. Took her time ordering drinks and she hasn’t run out on me yet.

@BaldisBeautiful Glad to hear your hitting it off. 

@WellMeantFred Have loads in common, she has lovely eyes, only just ordered our meals.

@BaldisBeautiful Remember she’s my cousin dude, don’t wanna hear no dirty details later.

@WellMeantFred Still at the pub, about to order dessert, finally! Might be late.

@BaldisBeautiful Forgot to mention May has trouble making decisions.

@WellMeantFred Already figured that one out bro. How was the film?

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The above story was inspired by Indigo Spider’s Sunday Picture Press which had a twitter twist this week.

Fear of making decisions can lead to some very difficult social interactions. Some people with this fear lack confidence in their own ability to decide anything, even what to eat or drink. This is a very real and very common fear for many people in the world. The fear is not in the decision but in the result of that decision. The do not fear making the right decision, they fear making the wrong one. They often try their hardest to remove decision making from their daily life all together.

I know one person who has trouble deciding what to eat at a restaurant like poor May above. This fear developed after she got food poisoning whilst eating out. She already struggled with decision making in other aspects of her life but food was not an issue until that incident pushed her over that line. She now often relies on her husband to make a decision as to what they will be eating, even when they dine out. She does not yell at him or become angry with him if he makes the wrong decision for her. She is not hard on him or does not blame him at all. She is just relieved that she herself is not to blame.

Although, I do not fear making a decision, I know how hard some of them can be to make. I also know what it is like to worry about not making the right decision. I am struggling with a few writing decisions at the moment. My biggest concern is that I have a handful of novels now which have been edited, rewritten, reread, and had the process repeated over and over until they are now nearly at the point where I am proud of them. Now to decide which one to push out into the world first. The struggle I have with this decision is that they all are so different. Looking at my novels is just like looking at my children who I often describe as night and day. It will not be an easy decision to make.

What about you? Do you struggle with making decisions about your writing? How do you make things easier on yourself?